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Where are you, really?

You answer for yourself. Your partner does the same.
Only then do both of your results come together.You answer, your partner does.
Only then your shared result opens.

Still good, but drifting?

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The lovlov app showing an individual need profile: a radar chart of seven needs, with three gaps marked in red as needing attention.
an illustrated man in profile, facing the phone
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  • Start on your own, or together
  • No real name or address needed
  • Your answers stored in the EU
  • Your data is never sold
  • No advertising cookies
  • No subscription

Who it is for

Relationships often go through phases, and what your relationship needs can change along the way. lovlov is a tool designed to support you in any of these phases, on your own or with your partner if you both want to take part.

The couple close together, their hearts overlapping

The Honeymoon

  • Learn what matters most to each of us
  • Talk about where we both want to go
  • Build habits that keep us close
Side by side, smiling at each other, hearts touching

Everyday Happiness

  • Keep the good things good
  • Share the good moments
  • Make time for each other in busy weeks
She glances at him, he looks away, hearts slightly apart

Reality Takes Over

  • Stay close in everyday life
  • Make room for us, not just the logistics
  • Adjust when life changes around us
Side by side, busy and tired, hearts still touching

Something Is Off

  • Check whether I am overreacting
  • Understand what has changed between us
  • Bring up the little things that bother me
Facing each other across a fork in the path, hearts far apart

Growing Distant

  • Stop having the same argument
  • Feel seen by my partner again
  • Find out where we misread each other
Turned away from each other, hearts apart

Stay or Go

  • Understand what is really going on
  • Find a way forward together
  • See whether this still fits the life I want

These are situations you may recognize, not a fixed sequence.

What you get

Your profile, your partner’s, and the one you only get together.

Your Individual
Relationship Profile

What matters to you, in your own order, and how much of each feels met today. Yours the moment you finish, whether or not anyone else ever answers.

Your Partner’s
Relationship Profile

Your partner’s own profile, built the same way from their own answers. Neither of you sees the other’s before you have both finished your own.

Your Personalized
Couple Profile

Do you know what matters to your partner, and is it reaching them? Once you have both answered:

  • Both of your priorities
  • Your blind spots
  • The issues worth looking at
  • The things worth celebrating

This is not therapy, not a diagnosis and not an emergency service. It does not tell you whether to stay or go. If you feel unsafe, go to Help in a crisis.

How it works

Each of you takes an honest look. You get one clear view.
You finally see where you stand and what’s worth looking at.

App screen: one need, with two sliders for how much it matters to you and how met it feels today.01

Your answers You answer, about you and about your partner

You answer questions about yourself and about your partner, and your partner does the same. Between five and fifteen minutes, depending on which depth you pick: the deeper you go, the more of your needs it covers. Start on your own and bring your partner in when you are ready, or start together from the beginning.

A second app screen behind the first, showing a different need profile: the same chart with another shape and other areas marked.App screen titled Your Individual Need Profiles: a seven-point web chart with three areas marked in red as needing attention.02

Your profile You understand what you need, and which of it is missing

Your most important needs come first, and next to each one, how much of it is actually reaching you. You see what is asking for your attention and what is holding. Your partner gets their own profile, built from their own answers.

App screen titled Your Relationship Profile: the same web chart with a third, dashed line for your partner, and four areas marked in red.03

Your couple profile You see where you read each other right, and where you did not

It opens once you have both answered and both agreed to share. Then you see your relationship, and how it is doing, a lot more clearly than before:

  • what is strongest between the two of you
  • where your partner is doing better than you expected
  • where you thought they were fine and they are not
  • where you misjudged how much something matters to them

What it costs

Start as a couple or solo.
Pick how deep you want to go.
Pay once, no subscription.

How it works, in short

  1. 1Pick your depthYou can go deeper later and only pay the difference.
  2. 2You each answerSeparately, in your own time. Neither of you sees the other's answers before you have both finished.
  3. 3You open it togetherYour shared reading opens once you have both answered and both agreed to share it.

Works in any current browser, on your phone or computer. Internet connection required. No app or account needed. Your result opens with your private link.

Basic

5 min

free

for both of you

7 core needs. What matters most to you, and how well it is met.

Start freeFree, no subscription
19% offRecommended

Balanced

10 min

€7.99*

total for both of you, tax included

14 needs. A fuller picture, and where something is missing.

Buy nowOne payment, no subscription

*vs 2 × €4.99 = €9.98
(if you each buy your own)

37% off

Deep

15 min

€9.99*

total for both of you, tax included

All 28 needs. Your whole relationship, nothing left out.

Buy nowOne payment, no subscription

*vs 2 × €7.99 = €15.98
(if you each buy your own)

Our privacy promise for you and your data

The data we collect is there to help you with your relationship. We never sell it, and we never share it with advertisers.

Data minimization

Less data, less risk, more privacy

  • No real name, no address needed
  • No ads, no ad cookies, no tracking cookies
  • Payment data stays with our payment provider
  • Contact details used only when needed, never for ads

Data protection

Built to EU GDPR standards

  • Specially protected under EU law (Art. 9 GDPR)
  • Your data is stored encrypted
  • Stored on servers in the EU
  • Your data is never sold and never shared with advertisers

Data control

100% control over your data

  • Delete your relationship data any time
  • Access your data any time
  • Choose what you share with your partner

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

What is lovlov?

lovlov is a private relationship companion for everyday life. It starts with a test that shows what matters to each of you and where you misread each other. Tools for the everyday challenges of a relationship are coming soon. lovlov is private by design and built around your individual needs.

What do I get from the lovlov test?

You get your Individual Relationship Profile: what matters most to you right now, and how much of it feels met. Your partner can get one too. When you both agree to share, you also get your Personalized Couple Profile. It shows your blind spots, what you assumed about each other next to what each of you actually said, so you stop guessing and see what is worth looking at together.

Can the lovlov test tell me whether my relationship is healthy?

No, and we don't think a questionnaire on its own can, ours included. There is no single definition of a healthy relationship. What feels right between two people depends on who they are and what each of them needs. So the test doesn't answer that question for you.

What the test does is look at your needs as they are today: which ones matter most to you, and how well each of them feels met right now. You also estimate how your partner would answer, and lovlov keeps that estimate separate from your own answers. Once you and your partner have both finished the test and both chosen to share, you see where the gaps are: needs that matter but feel unmet, needs you each rank differently, and places where what one of you assumed about the other differs from what the other actually said.

That picture is not a verdict, it is a starting point. The lovlov Toolbox, coming soon, is built for what comes next: tools for everyday life in your relationship, so you can work on what matters to you, on your own or together.

What does the lovlov Toolbox do?

The lovlov Toolbox is coming soon. It will be your relationship's everyday space, for what you share, what is happening now, and where you are heading:

  • The past: the moments worth keeping, saved on the day and easy to find
  • The now: the argument you keep having, one good thing to do today, and the words for what you cannot say
  • The future: the life you actually want, and where your relationship sits in it

You will work on what matters to both of you, from feeling close again to finding a way forward together.

Can I use lovlov without my partner?

Yes. lovlov is designed to work without your partner. You take the test on your own, and your profile is ready when you finish. You can bring your partner in whenever you both feel ready; your partner answers separately, through a link, without an account or a real name.

How long does the lovlov test take?

Plan 5 to 15 minutes for the lovlov test, depending on the depth you choose. You answer for yourself and estimate how your partner would answer. Your own profile is ready when you finish.

How much does the lovlov test cost?

The lovlov Basic test is free, alone or together. Balanced and Deep cover more of your needs and are a one-time payment, never a subscription:

  • Balanced: €4.99 solo, €7.99 as a couple
  • Deep: €7.99 solo, €9.99 as a couple

Going deeper later costs only the difference:

  • Basic to Balanced: €4.99 solo, €7.99 as a couple
  • Balanced to Deep: €3.00 solo, €2.00 as a couple
  • Basic to Deep: €7.99 solo, €9.99 as a couple
  • Solo to couple: €3.00 for Balanced, €2.00 for Deep

Can my partner see my answers?

lovlov shares your ratings with your partner only after you have both finished and chosen to share. The shared profile compares your ratings on shared topics and, if you both chose to guess each other, your guesses about each other. Either of you can end sharing at any time, which removes it for both. Your own profiles stay available.

Is lovlov private?

lovlov does not need your real name or address for the test. Your answers are stored encrypted on servers in the EU. Your data is never sold and never shared with advertisers. You can delete your relationship data at any time.

Can I delete my data?

Yes. You can delete your relationship data at any time. Deleting removes every answer you gave and what you guessed about your partner, and cancels any open invitation to your partner. We only keep what the law requires, like your invoice for 8 years.

Is lovlov therapy?

No. lovlov is not therapy and not a replacement for it, though it works alongside it. lovlov is not designed for acute crises and does not replace an emergency service. If you feel unsafe or are in danger, please call 112 or 110 now. To talk to someone, free and anonymous, day and night: TelefonSeelsorge 0800 111 0 111, 0800 111 0 222 or 116 123. Violence in your relationship: Hilfetelefon 116 016. Outside Germany, our Help in a crisis page lists numbers for your country.

Who is behind lovlov?

lovlov was founded by Eric Ebert in Berlin, Germany. Eric has built companies for eighteen years and started lovlov because he was missing something to help him nurture his own relationship in everyday life. The company behind lovlov is Alpha 360 Omega GmbH, based in Berlin. Full company details are in our imprint.

What is lovlov's vision?

lovlov's vision is a world where everyone can live their best life through loving and being loved in their closest relationships.

What is lovlov's mission?

lovlov's mission is to help people everywhere build the relationships they want and deserve, so they can live their best lives.

What lovlov isn’t
  • It doesn't replace therapy or a diagnosis.
  • It isn't built for acute crises or trauma.
  • It's not a medical device.

lovlov is not designed for acute crises. It does not replace therapy or an emergency service. If you feel unsafe or are in danger, please call 112 now. To talk to someone, free and anonymous, day and night: TelefonSeelsorge 0800 111 0 111. All help numbers →

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